Thursday, April 07, 2011

Late Bloomer

How to Succeed in Life as a Late Bloomer

Not all of us are quick off the mark and succeed early in life. Some of us are like slow-boiling pots, who need time to gather wisdom and make sense of the world around us. But watch out when a late bloomer finally gets it - late bloomers are the driving forces in the world because they have spent a long time digesting ideas, information and knowledge just to come up with some amazing solutions to the world's problems

Determine if you are a late bloomer. There are many ways in which your blooming could be delayed:

Educational late bloomer. This could mean that your grades at school were so-so until suddenly you blossom and outstrip all the other kids in one set of exams.

Career late bloomer. It could also be that you have spent the first 15 - 20 years of your adult life wondering what career you want. Then you suddenly fall into it and do brilliantly.

Social late bloomer. When everyone else was racking up their firsts, the idea of making new friends and dating was foreign--perhaps terrifying to you. That is, until one day, you realize that talking to people isn't nearly as scary as it seems, and your social circle unfolds.

2 A late bloomer is a deep thinker and is connected to the world in a way that is different from the "rush-rush, achieve-now" crowd. You are clever. Fast colleagues are suffering from burn-out, and you are just on the rise and now ready to take over the helm. People tend to make poor decisions when they're in a hurry to keep up with everyone else's timeline; as a result, you make better decisions and fewer mistakes.

3 Know your strong points. These include reflection, consideration and patience. Use these to build up your self-confidence and to tide yourself through life's low points when you feel that you are swimming against the tide.

4 Keep an "Ideas Book" handy - perhaps next to your bed or in your bag. Whenever ideas strike you (and late bloomers have many ideas), write them down. You may be wading in indecisiveness at the time but that idea has significance and may be very useful later on when you come back to it.

5 You should not be envious of friends and colleagues who have already "made it" or seem better adjusted to the world than you. You are just taking longer than them because results matter a lot to you. For you, the journey matters as much as the outcome. There's no point in comparing yourself to others. Accept that you are an individual human being going on an individual route at an individual pace.

6 Recognize that others may turn to you when they need to calm down. Use that skill to help them. Also realise that this is an important skill that you can use in choosing a vocation, career or lifestyle.

7 Enjoy your eventual success and build on it. It took you a long time to get there but bets are, you know what you are doing far more than those who got there earlier and people will start to come to you as they have great confidence in your experience, knowledge and the fact that you have thought so deeply about everything and reached your own conclusions rather than parrotting someone else's.

8 Record your thoughts. Your process of getting to where you are will likely help someone else, especially other family members. Traits like this can be easily inherited and if your children or another family member can be helped through you, then you will have made life better for someone else.

9 Always trust in yourself and your abilities, for you are getting there and you will conquer the difficulties in ways that others can only dream of. Instant achievement is not always a fairytale come true - think of the people who are so afraid because they do not know what they're doing. Late bloomers avoid that feeling by making sure they do know what they're doing!


Be strong and aware of your strengths.

Be honest with yourself. Take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself: "What am I doing that I want to stop? What am I not doing that I want to begin?" Even if you have no idea what your passions and gifts are, undoubtedly you're clear about something in your life. Start there.

Invest time in building friendships. Through friends you will grow more than trying to attempt life's journey by yourself.

Be creative in overcoming obstacles. Don't let anything, even a lack of money or age discrimination, come between you and your dreams. If you're facing a wall you can't blast through, grab a shovel and dig under it or borrow a ladder and climb over the top! Better yet, just walk around the side.

Take Evelyn Gregory, who became a flight attendant for US Air Express at age 71. After being rejected by three airlines, she accepted a job as a gate agent and let the corporate brass get to know her. Six months later, she was hired by US Air Express and flew for them for the next seven years.

Remember that nothing you like to do is tiresome. From the outside looking in, it sounds daunting to go to medical school at 46, join the Peace Corps at 65, or become a flight attendant at 71. But the truth is that it isn't exhausting; it's exhilarating. It's far more tiring to do something you don't enjoy.

Cultivate a sense of humor. Laugh often-especially at yourself. Researchers at Loma Linda University in California have discovered that laughter not only reduces stress and stimulates the immune system, but also lowers dopamine levels. (Dopamine governs our "fight or flight response.") In other words, a good laugh can ease the anxiety of risk-taking.

Help other late bloomers to find their path in life. Reassure them that they are not left behind or less intelligent than other human beings. We're all worthy in this world and we all have a purpose.


Be careful with money - you need to be more spartan in your lifestyle and be penny-wise.

Always remember that it is better to do something imperfectly than to do nothing flawlessly. Try the best you can, the best you can is good enough.

Be realistic in your expectations. Many employers are unfriendly towards late bloomers, because they want to make a long-term investment in an employee and/or fear that older workers will be more set in their ways.

Reblog article from Dyla Dve, thanks babe :)

To be bloomed is never too late :)

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